So, my dad’s a financial advisor…but what did that really teach me? I mean it would look pretty bad if I were a terrible saver and extravagant spender, right? How much of his work life was ingrained into my upbringing? Although our conversations may not look as formal as his interactions with current clients, I think I’ve picked up on many of his financial values.
My dad is an excellent teacher. He encouraged me to accompany him to the bank from a young age. I was allowed to view our family’s safety deposit box and had a savings account in my name from before I can remember. When I was old enough, I immediately applied for a credit card in order to build credit and make my own timely payments. Even at twenty-one, I know that budgeting is important. It may look a lot different for a young adult than for someone twice my age, but I think the underlying principles are the same.
I have always been mindful of my spending and have recognized the difference between needs and wants. Before purchasing a product, I challenge myself to question my decision, do I really need the newest iPhone? Is this an impulse purchase, or is this new swimsuit actually necessary? I also follow simple rules like saving more than I spend, and slowly putting away money for retirement. As a result, I believe being smart about money is an attitude, it is a choice. According to a T. Rowe Price Parents Kids & Money Survey (2017), 59% of parents worry that they spoil their kids, and 55% of them believe they spend too much money on things their kids don’t really need.
Unlike those surveys, there are clear times in which I remember receiving hard “no’s” as a child. In preschool, my brother Troy and I really wanted one of those kid-sized plastic cars from Toys “R” Us. When we asked if we could bring one home, we were told, “why would you need that when you can ride in our actual car!?” I remember another specific instance of learning the distinction between needs and wants during a family staycation in Waikiki. I saw these shiny black slippers in the window of a store, tried them on and decided that I “needed” to get them! At under ten years old, I was not financially independent, so again, all of my decisions had to go through my parents. I remember futilely pestering my mom and again being returned with a firm “no, the slippers you are wearing right now are still new”. At the time, I outwardly pouted, but in reality, it made sense.
In college, I try my best to proactively manage my spending habits to hold myself accountable. I keep a log of items I purchase so that I know how much I’m spending each month. During my last winter break, I worked at Nordstrom Gelato. One of my goals from the job was to only spend my tip money, and save the rest! Yes, for me those one dollar bills add up!
In these ways, I was conditioned to see the value of practicality over mindless purchasing. More importantly, my parents’ advice has always aligned with their own actions. I have never witnessed my mom hoarding designer bags or my dad buying new models of cars. I have also carefully observed the work ethic of my grandparents and great-grandmothers. Hearing my great-grandmother talk about her stories of World War II, and even rationing food during the bombing of Pearl Harbor, allowed me to understand why she was such an extreme saver. Growing up, my parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents’ values have imprinted onto my own, and I’m more mindful of my spending. Like them, I tend to cherish intangible memories like picnicking at our favorite spot at Kailua beach or enjoying the best homemade vanilla milkshakes made by my Aunty over other superficial things that can be bought.